dating advice

Topics: Relationships, Love
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: All. The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

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Bro, What’s a Dinner & Dick Chick?

Now you may be asking, “What is a dinner and dick chick?” No worries.

The short answer is a dinner and dick chick is a girl that only needs a guy for dinner and dick. And that’s it.

The wise man in the village will tell you that she’s not available for a relationship.

You could date this woman on Friday night for eternity. It will be a one way relationship. Meaning she’ll take but not give. And that’s a real problem if you’re looking for a normal girlfriend. Or a wife. That’s willing and able to love to create a caring and compassionate loving relationship. Where people rely on each other and build each other.

Simply, she’ll only make time for dinner and dick. She might chill for a few days. But she’s only coming for… dinner and dick. Her heart and life is closed.

Successful Relationships | Honesty, Trust, Kindness & Generosity

To start and make a successful relationship both guy and girl need to be honest, giving and trusting. Sometimes called open hearts. Basically good people with good intentions. Typically formal relationships start with meet and greet, evening dates, drinks or dinner and progress to spending more time together at each other’s homes, going places and doing things from movies to trips. Notably, time at each other’s homes often starts with wine, making out and making love. Where one does extra things for the guest and makes them feel special.

On a quick side note, as a guy you have to go all in hosting her at your place. Little gifts, candles, flowers, the best food. The whole shebang. We have a course specifically on how to host a date at your pad.
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Generosity is Not In Her Behavior.

Relationships are built. It’s a giving situation. Dinner and dick chicks take. They never give.

Again, they take. They expect dinner and to be put on a pedestal and made feel important and be the center of attention. Not just from you. Mostly she’s looking to impress the other women in the restaurant, her friends and feed her ego – herself. She doesn’t give a shit about you. She care about your ability to spoil her. She cares – about herself. She needs to show off. To impress. Her mother. Her friends. And her ex-boyfriends. And every guy that’s hit that in the past.

She limits the relationship based on selfishness, demands, expectations. Conditional expectations, that depend on you.

Dinner and Dick Chicks are hustling and using sex as the commodity. A conditional commodity. And that’s what you’ll find out over time. These are the women that limit sex or use sex and manipulate you. You’re not going to get nice gifts and she’s not going to thing about you, being caring or considerate.

These Girls Are Not Lazy

This dinner date is the highlight of her week. She’s worked hard all week. If she’s hot most likely she has another date scheduled tomorrow. Take a look at her calendar.

She Has Expectations. That You Provide for Her.

But she won’t do shit for you. She would never provide for you. Or care for you. That’s very important when you show up at divorce court. Mostly on a Sunday afternoon when you can do anything and go anywhere, she’s not going to plan anything or think about you. She expects you to plan and pay for your activities including including dinner. She expects you to provide for her.

In the good ole days before the age of feminism, men and women took care of each other. The pretense for taking care of women in the past was they would be staying at home raising children, cleaning and cooking for the rest of her life. These girls make money and often have a nice place, nice stuff and no savings.

She Doesn’t Live the Golden Rule.

Essentially you are paying for her p*ssy. As that’s the value she brings to the relationship. Certainly not money as she will never pay, which carries over her not thinking about you, or caring or being considerate. When the sex stops what do you have? Someone in your bed that you pay for. And then she starts to manipulate because she has nothing else to do. And that’s why dinner and dick chicks are the worst choice to marry. They don’t live the Golden Rule.

Speaking of… a funny side story. So I’m dating this Dinner and Dick Chick for I don’t know… a few months. We’ll say two. We chilling in her kitchen. Typical hot blonde with an ocean front condo… there’s one in very tower building here in South Florida. Sometimes a few of them. A few kittens but mostly cougars… they are in an oceanfront condo. They know how to live.

Anyways… were bullshitting about life and this girls planner is out on her kitchen table. So I’m nuzzling with her and playing with her and I look down and I see tomorrows schedule. There’s a date with Tom and it’s circled big for 6:30. Like triple circled. WTF.? Are you shitting me?

Girl, are you for real? I’m here and have been here with you for months. And you’re lining up dates?

Hear me out… this girl ended up canceling the date. I looked her in the eye and I called her out. I was like “What is this bullshit?” She was very red and side eyed and apologized. I took all her clothes off in about two minutes and I plowed her all night. And the next night. It lasted for some time… a few more months.

She sets herself up for failure.

Her expectations fail her. She sets herself up for failure. She will never be happy with you because she expects so much, no man will ever be Mr. Right. He could be young, big cock, super nice guy, educated and great in bed, but if he’s not rich, she’ll be disappointed. She had her heart set on being saved my Mr. Right, Prince Charming or nothing. If you disappoint her a bit, she ghosts you.

The basis of her lack of happiness is no gratitude. Instead of appreciating what she has, she expects more and is disappointed. Why many people are unhappy. They lack appreciation. True appreciation.

Pride is placed before love. She’s not going to be nice. Or open her heart. She has expectations and they need to be met, immediately. Either she can see the money, or she’s out.

And all good men will tell you, the girl would rather hangout with her cats and her pride than be at your side. (That’s tight and so true.)

Honestly Bro, you can kick yourself in the dick now and burn your money, because if you fall in love with this woman, that’s what she’s gonna do.

You Pay to Play.

Dinner and Dicks Chicks are One Step up from Hookers.

It’s fun at first as she seems normal. But soon it feels like you pay for sex. A direct transaction. The difference between dinner and dick chicks and hookers is hookers are fun and you pay them to leave. Dinner and dick chicks suck. You have to listen to them, put them on a pedestal and the girl is just going to hustle you anyways. It’s lots of bullshit conversation and you can see the truth in her eyes every once in a while. Unless she’s really good. And there are really good ones that have perfected the hustle, tell you everything you want to hear, they get fed, attention, drinks, stimulation and they get free sex. You have to bust your ass and pay to play. She’s so used to free sex, she’ll shit bricks if she has to pay.

Dinner cost them nothing. They expect never to pay and never will.

Interestingly, the girl I’ve been dating the last month is the classic. East Coast. Boston. Heavy accent. Rude as f*ck. Not a bit of kindness. My nickname for her is East Coast. She’s rude and rough around the edges. But a heart of gold. This girls texts over “I WILL NEVER PAY FOR A MAN.”

Gentlemen, the girl doesn’t live the Golden Rule. To do on to others as you would do to yourself. She’s inherently selfish. Ya can’t fix that. And you can’t fix stupid. No worries. Be thankful of the good time and get on back on your horse and ride on.

Warning! These Chicks Hustle Real Game. Female Players.

Most dinner and dick chicks have been around the block. Often classy. They know what to say to you. Exactly. The girl may not be smart, but she’s got game. She knows exactly what she’s doing and knows men like you. She’s scoped so many guys and knows what she wants.

These girls have social mastery. They know people. Often they are bartenders.

The Sex Will Be Really Good.

Looking at the glass half full, the sex will be spectacular. If you roll game well enough and the girl believes she’s has a good catch, she’s gonna love you. Really big. The sex is above reproach. Really really. Good. That’s her hook. She’s going to roll game and her kitty will be perfect. She will overlook nothing.

Dinner and Dick Chicks are Future Crazy Cat Ladies

The girl’s expectations are so high that no guy will ever be good enough. She may get lucky and sucker a guy with a cigarette boat and blow to marry her or a normal guy with a house and stuff. Realistically the guy has a less than 40% chance she’ll make it married.

Now you can give it your best shot. Plow that girl for months. Watch what happens the moment you stop paying what you have been. It’s probably in dinner and wine and time. She’s not going to honeymoon you and chill for a weekend of sex and high fives. That girl is out when the dinner stops or pauses, even for a moment.

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Checkout her clothes she brings over to stay a few days. Just clothes for dinner and dick. No workout clothes. Or art fair clothes. Just clothes and shoes for fancy dinner – and nothing other than a light nightie. Her intention is in her overnight bag – she intends for nothing other than… dinner and dick.

The Dinner and Dick Chick Test #1

Stop paying for dinner. See how generous your girl is. It’s a character test. Who does she really care about. What is she willing and able to do?

The Dinner and Dick Chick Test #2

Try rolling friends with benefits. That girl will tell you to go f*ck yourself. Either you pay to play or that girl is gone. She’s not your friend and isn’t going to play ball.

They’re not Bad Women. Just no good for a relationship. Great for dinner and dick.

She Doesn’t Need You. She’ll Never Compromise, Or Meet in the Middle.

That’s the main reason why you can’t have a relationship with her – she doesn’t need you. Her pride will holdout and a new girl will come along for the nice guy. Just how it happens. And a new stray cat will show up at the Dinner and Dick Chicks door. And that resentment builds. In 20 years she’ll take it out on the neighbor kids playing in the yard.

Here’s the Trick. Some change.

Some of these girls figure it out and settle. They’re just so tired of bullshit. They’ve worked so hard to get what they have, fighting society, working a million hours. They’re owed and this is how they get it back. The girl is perpetually hungry and bitchy for starving herself to look great.

They’ve had their hearts broken. A few times.

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How to Identify a Dinner and Dick Chick.

East Coast, Boston, New York, Florida
Her home will be perfect.
She in shape. Not fat.

Gentlemen. Cougars in the grass stalking. Be smart. When that lipstick and those titties is all you see… remember, she might be a dinner and dick chick. I have a safari shirt I wear when I go in the ring to train cougars. It’s rough, I get scratched, bitten and my heart torn out.

But, it’s everything. The ownership sex. The hunt. The takedown. The sex. The sex and more sex. The best part about dinner and dick chicks. Just don’t fall in love with them. They’ll break your heart. The girl doesn’t need you. She takes care of herself. She just needs… dinner and dick.

She stops trying to build a relationship, or pretentding to when she can’t find what she is truly looking for, money – most of the time.

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Her state of mind and how she structures her life.

Myself the worst case scenario is falling in love with a dinner and dick chick. The girl will bullshit you and straight up lie, patronize you premeptivly to get stuff and stimulation. She doesn’t want or need love. Not only is her heart closed, she just might be a greedy bitch that will take all your shit and tell you to fuck yourself. Literally.

What you have is poor character of a person. Selfish. Greedy. Not kind or generous. A dinner and dick chick.

It’s no different than a hooker. You pay her for sex before hand. If you don’t pay, there’s no sex.

This new girl rocks. Less she’s selfish and said, “I’ll never pay for a man.” Regardless how many times he’s paid. I just gave the girl a nice bicycle and I have a diamond friendship ring she would have gotten today, or two weeks ago. But she has been so busy telling me to screw myself.

It’s not love.

That’s the only reason why I date. And this girl would be a great companion. If she’s your friend.

Friendship or a relationship?

Truth Lies and Love.

What’s an act?

Mattress test – is there love?

Typically the girl is independent. She’s figured out how to get by without a guy.

Selfishness and Survival

The girl won’t buy you anything or do anything for you. Eventually she’ll stop coming over and begin making demands. And when she won’t let you stay the night, it’s just not worth it.

She Doesn’t Need Love – It’s a Burden Bro.

The problem is it’s a one way relationship. She doesn’t need anything other than dinner and dick. She has no time and works all the time. She certainly will not pay for anything or be generous or kind. She’s probably husting three other dicks while playing you… for dinner. Not to be negative but real. I dated a dinner and dick chick that actually had dates with other guys in her calander while I’m entertaining and listening to her complaining and whining about her life… and you see circled dates for tomorrow with a guy named Tom and she insists that you are the shit.

That girl I called out. I looked at the circle appointment date (lets not forget I have been dating this woman for 2 or 3 months and plowing her. I’m not taking her to dinner… on the principal that I won’t be used for money. But she can use me for dick. Bsasically, I’m not taking this girl out if she’s not nice or honest. As she would would never take me out. Or spend and money on me. The basis of selfishness. Dating Dinner and Dick chicks is a one way street and you might was well sign over your checkbook, retirement accounts and half your assets as that’s all that girl is looking for… security. Your shit. Your stuff. So she can be saved.

But she’ll never save you. Or give a f*ck about you.

Female Players, often Cougars without Security

A good looking woman, usually a 7 to 8.5… 9s are treasured and they usually love being treasured and spoiled, but if the girl looks so good and she’s nice… whatever. Beauty and kindness is priceless.