Featuring advice from Robert J. Ringer and the 1974 version of Winning Through Intimidation, a self development book about success, business and keeping control of a situation.
Section: Encouragement and Advice
Topics: Relationships, Love, The Game
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: The Cub, The Man & The Casanova
Optional Audio: My Next 30 Years by Tim McGraw.
Changing your Perspective: The 30 Year Theory: Go after all you can get, have some fun and win!
I’ve been reading a heavily faded and yellowed copy of Winning Through Intimidation by Robert J. Ringer. This is a paperback version from 1974 with no cover or back cover. The lessons and advice are still priceless.
Keeping in perspective and taking a big step back… Winning Through Intimidation is a self development book about success, business and keeping control of a situation. Robert uses his perspectives to win at business and real estate and how to create the mental perspective, creating and using tools, boundaries and defining limits to maintain his objective.
Next, we’re going to apply the bedrock of his philosophy – to dating.
And hopefully broaden our perspective with an understanding how to view the social situations from a distance and still be intimately involved.
The Thirty Year Theory – Death is a Reality
The The Thirty Year Theory states death is a reality AND most people tend to block from their conscious mind the reality they are going to die.
Robert said, “I certainly didn’t like facing the fact any more than does anyone else, but I finally did so after the Theory of Reality become firmly entrenched in my thinking. I simply recognized death is a reality. I quit hiding my head in the would-be sands of eternal life and faced the reality that – give or take a few years – I had about thirty years left to “get on with it.” Sure I might stretch that to 50 years, but on the other hand circumstances might cut it down to one. Thirty was merely a “working number” I chose because it seemed to me a the time to be a reasonable estimation of how many years I had left to play the game of life, barring the unforeseen.”
Robert continues with, “I made up my mind that I was not going to lose – because of fright, intimidation or another reason – what might be my only opportunity to play the game.”
Gentlemen, that statement is nuts on… “what might be my only opportunity to play the game.”
Just like dating, it might be your only opportunity to play the game – you can go up to any girl and play the dating game. You have nothing to loose. Don’t be hard on yourself and have a good time.
But bring your A Game if you want to Win! Your best Game. Say the right things at the right time and you’ll be Mr. Right.
Boy Girl Theory | Winning The Dating Game
Robert would have been a great dating coach if he wasn’t so busy selling real estate. On page 190, he states “The Boy Girl theory is probably the most basic of psychological rules governing human relationships. In fact it was in existence the day man first appeared on earth. It states that every person wants what he can’t have and does not want what he can have. It is most evident in the “boy-girl game,” and there are very few adults in the world that have not played that game. It works like this:
If boy plays it cool, then girl wants boy (or vice versa); if boy ones on like hungry dog chasing a squirrel; then girl does not want boy (or vice versa).