rules for online dating

Topics: Relationships, Love, Success
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

Optional Audio Imagine Dragons, Whatever it Takes.

12 Simple Rules for Dating Success, Happiness and Peace of Mind

Sometimes failure is not an option, for love and life. The two things most people can’t live without. If you are struggling for life, you have to succeed. Failure is death and that is not an option. Just as with Love. If you are struggling with love, you have to succeed. Failure is not an option. Except for the crazy cat lady, she gave up. She loves the cats and they really don’t care about her. She has no love.

How Hard Are You Really Trying?

Putting it perspective, when you are fighting for you life, you’ll try a lot harder. Again and again until you succeed. To succeed dating, you’ll need to go all in. And open your heart. And often when you open your heart dating, you get hurt. Use these words to bring peace in times of uncertainty, loneliness, rejection and a path for success – those feelings are all temporary. It’s tricky to be above the situation, when you are in it. And all in.

12 Steps for Dating Success!

1. Smile.
2. Tell Yourself “I will succeed!”
3. Visualize your goal.
4. Have faith and believe in your goal, God, the universe and yourself.
5. Consider everything is temporary. The moment. The situation.
6. Keep calm and carry on.
7. Never give up and try again.
8. Take step back and evaluate the situation.
9. Be modest. What can you change about you?
10. Try a different approach.
11. Have a good time.
12. Smile. You Will Succeed.

Step 1. Smile! For Your Dating Success!

Way under done. Smile. Smile and Smile more! First, you look better smiling. Everyone does. A smiling face says you are a happy person. Fun and people want to be around happy people. Who wants to hang out with Debbie Downer? Nobody. So smile and if you have to act. Over time, it’ll be genuine. If you want to attract, you have to be likeable and fun to be around. Smiling is #1.

Step 2. Tell Yourself “I will succeed!”

You can achieve almost anything you want; if you spend enough time, effort and energy and sometimes money; but you can achieved anything you put your mind to. Visualize success and put action forth. Eventually you will succeed.

Step 3. Visualize your Goal.

Visualize success. Your Goal. The woman… or women of your dreams. Her hair, her warmth, her touch and of course, her boobs!

Step 4. Have faith and believe in your goal, God, the universe and yourself.

In addition to visualizing your dream, you have to have faith and believe in your goal for success. Essentially you are manifesting and that requires a dream, faith and action. Note the critical word – ACTION. Before action, you must have faith and belief with CERTAINTY that you will achieve. And you shall.

Step 5. Consider everything is temporary. The moment. The situation.

Everything is temporary.

Step 6. Keep calm and carry on.

Remember the Boy-Girl Theory, which states, boy plays it cool, boy gets girl. So keep calm carry on and play it cool.

Step 7. Never give up and try again.

Sometimes your game is not quite A Game and she’s uncertain and she says to no. If it was maybe, then she’ll still say no. That doesn’t mean never. Often she will change her mind if your game improves. Make yourself better and roll A Game and she’ll say “Yes.”

Step 8. Take step back and evaluate the situation.

It’s never the girl. Keep that in mind. What she wants or expects? Or was the timing wrong? If it wasn’t the timing, it’s probably you. What was the color of your shirt? Red? You get the idea. There are so many things that can turn a woman off, and only a few things that will turn her on.

Step 9. Be modest. What can you change about you?

Back to making yourself better. Almost all guys roll A Game with FU money. So if you became rich, you’d have some pretty good game. Or if you do 200 pushups a day. Or both. So are you rich and can you do 20 pushups a day? You get the idea? You can change yourself and roll much better game.

Step 10. Try a different approach.

The soccer Mom isn’t going to want you to come over to her house in the suburbs with your Harley to pick her up. Seems sweet, but she has to worry about who will take care of the kids if she falls off the motorcycle. Much less what the HOA ladies will say. The same soccer Mom will love being picked up in a big crossover with room for her kids to come along next month. Try a different approach.

Or a new girl.

Step 11. Have a good time.

No worries. When you get good at approaching people and talking about nothing and everything, it gets much easier to flirt with women. Have a good time and practice talking to strangers and people on the street, in stores and on your way through the day. Say nice things, give compliments and make people feel good. Have a good time.

Step 12. Smile. You Will Succeed.

Smile. Smile and Smile more! Remember, you look better smiling. You are more attractive. You attract attention. A smiling face says you are a happy person. Think about the smile you have after she gives you her phone number!

And that is 12 Simple Rules for Dating Success and Peace of Mind. Follow these steps and you’ll have a great time and have success dating.

Featuring advice from Robert J. Ringer and the 1974 version of Winning Through Intimidation, a self development book about success, business and keeping control of a situation.

Section: Encouragement and Advice
Topics: Relationships, Love, The Game
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

Optional Audio: My Next 30 Years by Tim McGraw.

Changing your Perspective: The 30 Year Theory: Go after all you can get, have some fun and win!

I’ve been reading a heavily faded and yellowed copy of Winning Through Intimidation by Robert J. Ringer. This is a paperback version from 1974 with no cover or back cover. The lessons and advice are still priceless.

Keeping in perspective and taking a big step back… Winning Through Intimidation is a self development book about success, business and keeping control of a situation. Robert uses his perspectives to win at business and real estate and how to create the mental perspective, creating and using tools, boundaries and defining limits to maintain his objective.

Next, we’re going to apply the bedrock of his philosophy – to dating.

And hopefully broaden our perspective with an understanding how to view the social situations from a distance and still be intimately involved.

The Thirty Year Theory – Death is a Reality

The The Thirty Year Theory states death is a reality AND most people tend to block from their conscious mind the reality they are going to die.

Robert said, “I certainly didn’t like facing the fact any more than does anyone else, but I finally did so after the Theory of Reality become firmly entrenched in my thinking. I simply recognized death is a reality. I quit hiding my head in the would-be sands of eternal life and faced the reality that – give or take a few years – I had about thirty years left to “get on with it.” Sure I might stretch that to 50 years, but on the other hand circumstances might cut it down to one. Thirty was merely a “working number” I chose because it seemed to me a the time to be a reasonable estimation of how many years I had left to play the game of life, barring the unforeseen.”

Robert continues with, “I made up my mind that I was not going to lose – because of fright, intimidation or another reason – what might be my only opportunity to play the game.”

Gentlemen, that statement is nuts on… “what might be my only opportunity to play the game.”

Just like dating, it might be your only opportunity to play the game – you can go up to any girl and play the dating game. You have nothing to loose. Don’t be hard on yourself and have a good time.

But bring your A Game if you want to Win! Your best Game. Say the right things at the right time and you’ll be Mr. Right.

Boy Girl Theory | Winning The Dating Game

Robert would have been a great dating coach if he wasn’t so busy selling real estate. On page 190, he states “The Boy Girl theory is probably the most basic of psychological rules governing human relationships. In fact it was in existence the day man first appeared on earth. It states that every person wants what he can’t have and does not want what he can have. It is most evident in the “boy-girl game,” and there are very few adults in the world that have not played that game. It works like this:

If boy plays it cool, then girl wants boy (or vice versa); if boy ones on like hungry dog chasing a squirrel; then girl does not want boy (or vice versa).

12 Simple Rules for Dating Success and Peace of Mind