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Dating Tip: Bro, Let Go. Of Past Relationships

Topics: Relationships, Love
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: All. The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

Optional Audio: Daughtry – Over You

Letting Go of of Past Relationships is Key to a Successful New Relationship.

Bro, Let Go. The Past is History

Out with the Old and in with the New!

A secret to dating success is starting fresh with a good attitude and letting go of past relationships. When you are ready to start a new relationship, you will need to be positive, friendly and fun. You may need to take some time to heal your heart and your mind to begin a new relationship. Your past relationship may include betrayal, abandonment and a broken heart. These experiences are difficult to deal with. Take time and talk with friends that can sincerely evaluate your experiences and offer suggestions and positive encouragement. You may need to let time pass to get past your previous relationships. When you are ready to let go of the past, dating will be much easier, fun and your new relationship will be off to a great start.

Complaining is a Turn-Off

The fastest way to end a first date of a new relationship is to complain about your ex-girlfriend, ex-wife… your ex. Take it as fact and basic human psychology, complaining is a turn-off. When you complain about your past relationship, you are exhibiting an unattractive quality.

A new relationship is also a new friendship. New friendships must be kindled and protected.

Learn from the Past

Whether your last relationship was 30 days or 30 years, take what you learned form that experience and make your new relationships better. To create a new relationship, look forward and not backwards.
You should learn from the past

Heal the Pain

When the chains of love are broken, you’ve been abandoned or cheated on – it hurts. Healing the heart and the mind takes time.

Talk with Friends, Even Strangers

While you are letting time pass from your last relationship, help heal your heart and emotional wounds by talking with friends.
Betrayal
Getting past previous relationships that may include betrayal and a broken heart is to talk with friends.

Getting Over Divorce, Pain and the Past

Often when long relationships and marriages between two people end, it’s easy to bring past relationship especially long marriages that end in divorce.

New relationships can turn sour quite quickly when

Suggested Reading:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People
Know the points…

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How to Start a New Relationship
The first step to starting a successful new relationship is to brush up on how to be a friendly and likeable person. There are simple rules to follow to get people to like you and these rules work very well for dating.

Rule #1: Don’t Complain

Rule #2: Don’t Criticize

Rule #3. Show Sincere Gratitude and Appreciation – Say Thank You

I recommend a quick refresher with Dale Carnegie rules of “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”

I recommend following two basic principals, The Laws of Attraction and Being a Friendly, Likeable Person.

A quick way to ruin a new relationship is to constantly complain aboutfollowing

First you must be a likeable person

Who was Casanova? Legendary. Adventurer. Womanizer. Lover. And Helluva Nice Guy.

Topics: Relationships, Love
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: All. The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

Optional Audio: Alan Silvestri – Romancing The Stone This is really quite approiate as tribute to the Legendary Giacomo Casanova

Who was Casanova? Helluva Nice Guy.

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Legendary. Adventurer. Womanizer. Lover.

Ownership sex is when the girl goes all in to own you.

And Yes, it is… even better than revenge sex.

Or it becomes a one way relationship.

How much does she really try?

12 Simple Rules for Dating Success and Peace of Mind

Topics: Relationships, Love, Success
Audience: Guys and Gals
Level: The Cub, The Man & The Casanova

Optional Audio Imagine Dragons, Whatever it Takes.

12 Simple Rules for Dating Success, Happiness and Peace of Mind

Sometimes failure is not an option, for love and life. The two things most people can’t live without. If you are struggling for life, you have to succeed. Failure is death and that is not an option. Just as with Love. If you are struggling with love, you have to succeed. Failure is not an option. Except for the crazy cat lady, she gave up. She loves the cats and they really don’t care about her. She has no love.

12 Rules for Success Online Dating

How Hard Are You Really Trying?

Putting it perspective, when you are fighting for you life, you’ll try a lot harder. Again and again until you succeed. To succeed dating, you’ll need to go all in. And open your heart. And often when you open your heart dating, you get hurt. Use these words to bring peace in times of uncertainty, loneliness, rejection and a path for success – those feelings are all temporary. It’s tricky to be above the situation, when you are in it. And all in.

12 Steps for Dating Success!

1. Smile.
2. Tell Yourself “I will succeed!”
3. Visualize your goal.
4. Have faith and believe in your goal, God, the universe and yourself.
5. Consider everything is temporary. The moment. The situation.
6. Keep calm and carry on.
7. Never give up and try again.
8. Take step back and evaluate the situation.
9. Be modest. What can you change about you?
10. Try a different approach.
11. Have a good time.
12. Smile. You Will Succeed.

Smile for Dating Success

Step 1. Smile! For Your Dating Success!

Way under done. Smile. Smile and Smile more! First, you look better smiling. Everyone does. A smiling face says you are a happy person. Fun and people want to be around happy people. Who wants to hang out with Debbie Downer? Nobody. So smile and if you have to act. Over time, it’ll be genuine. If you want to attract, you have to be likeable and fun to be around. Smiling is #1.

Step 2. Tell Yourself “I will succeed!”

You can achieve almost anything you want; if you spend enough time, effort and energy and sometimes money; but you can achieved anything you put your mind to. Visualize success and put action forth. Eventually you will succeed.

Step 3. Visualize your Goal.

Visualize success. Your Goal. The woman… or women of your dreams. Her hair, her warmth, her touch and of course, her boobs!

Step 4. Have faith and believe in your goal, God, the universe and yourself.

In addition to visualizing your dream, you have to have faith and believe in your goal for success. Essentially you are manifesting and that requires a dream, faith and action. Note the critical word – ACTION. Before action, you must have faith and belief with CERTAINTY that you will achieve. And you shall.

Step 5. Consider everything is temporary. The moment. The situation.

Everything is temporary.

Step 6. Keep calm and carry on.

Remember the Boy-Girl Theory, which states, boy plays it cool, boy gets girl. So keep calm carry on and play it cool.

Step 7. Never give up and try again.

Sometimes your game is not quite A Game and she’s uncertain and she says to no. If it was maybe, then she’ll still say no. That doesn’t mean never. Often she will change her mind if your game improves. Make yourself better and roll A Game and she’ll say “Yes.”

Step 8. Take step back and evaluate the situation.

It’s never the girl. Keep that in mind. What she wants or expects? Or was the timing wrong? If it wasn’t the timing, it’s probably you. What was the color of your shirt? Red? You get the idea. There are so many things that can turn a woman off, and only a few things that will turn her on.

Step 9. Be modest. What can you change about you?

Back to making yourself better. Almost all guys roll A Game with FU money. So if you became rich, you’d have some pretty good game. Or if you do 200 pushups a day. Or both. So are you rich and can you do 20 pushups a day? You get the idea? You can change yourself and roll much better game.

Step 10. Try a different approach.

The soccer Mom isn’t going to want you to come over to her house in the suburbs with your Harley to pick her up. Seems sweet, but she has to worry about who will take care of the kids if she falls off the motorcycle. Much less what the HOA ladies will say. The same soccer Mom will love being picked up in a big crossover with room for her kids to come along next month. Try a different approach.

Or a new girl.

Step 11. Have a good time.

No worries. When you get good at approaching people and talking about nothing and everything, it gets much easier to flirt with women. Have a good time and practice talking to strangers and people on the street, in stores and on your way through the day. Say nice things, give compliments and make people feel good. Have a good time.

Step 12. Smile. You Will Succeed.

Smile. Smile and Smile more! Remember, you look better smiling. You are more attractive. You attract attention. A smiling face says you are a happy person. Think about the smile you have after she gives you her phone number!

And that is 12 Simple Rules for Dating Success and Peace of Mind. Follow these steps and you’ll have a great time and have success dating.

Recommended Reading: Dating Strategy – Silence. Make Her Think About You.

A Game Dating Strategy – Silence. Make Her Think About You.

Section: Dating Strategy and Advice
Topics: Creating Desire
Audience: Guys
Level: The Casanova Club

Optional Audio: Marshmello – Silence Ft. Khalid

Dating Strategy – Silence Works.

Welcome to Mr. Right’s Dating Advice! Today we are going to teach you how to run game. And teach you why it works.

Really we’re going to teach you how to shut up and get laid!

The Game is Psychology.

The basics of the basics. Boy plays it cool. Boy gets girl.

Seems what makes great advice different that good advice is simplicity. How easy can we make it? How about this?

Bro… Shut Up. Patience. Wait. Play it cool.”

The Game. The Laws of Attraction.

Getting back to basics with “boy plays it cool, boy get’s girl” let’s open that faded copy of Winning through Intimidation by Robert J. Ringer and flip to page, 190 for his recap of the Boy-Girl Theory.

Quoting… “The Boy-Girl Theory is probably the most basic of all psychological rules governing human relationships. In fact it was in existence the day man first appeared on earth. It states that every person wants what he can’t have and does not want what he can have. It is most evident in the “boy-girl game,” and there are very few adults in the world that have not played the game. It works like this:

If boy plays it cool, then girl wants boy (or vice versa); if boy comes on like a hungry dog chasing a squirrel, then girl does not want boy (or vice versa).

If you’ve ever seen a guy who looks like the Hunchback of Notre Dame walking down the street with a gorgeous female on his arm, and wondered what the girl could possibly see in him, you were undoubtable viewing the results of the Boy-Girl Theory, the old Hunchback probably knew how to play it cool.

Running Game - Silence

Gentlemen, we are not

Running Game is Consciously Changing Your Natural Behavior to Create Desire and Attraction. When you bring your A Game, you bring your best – A Game Dating.

The Game is Leveraging Attraction, kindness and desire to maintain lust and create the conditions for love. Winning the Game takes leveraging attraction and kindness to create desire to maintain lust and create the conditions for love and lust. You screw up, or say dumb stuff you lose. You say nothing or the right thing and you win.

There are clearly winners and losers in the dating game. Those alone at night – are losers. It’s simple. The winners have both love and lust.

What you say and do and the little details is what makes the difference. The great part about online dating is you don’t do anything. You don’t even have to talk. You type stuff. Love and lust is removed from 5 senses to one. Thought and interpretation. You creates basic image and her imagination fills in the blanks.

Winning the dating game is mostly psychology and patience. Success, love and lust are ruled by the Laws of Attraction. Not as metaphysical speculation, but as proven behavior that creates desire. The laws of Attraction are not always logical.

Don’t Be a Car Salesman. A Player. A Hustler.

The same with sales and how to get people to buy things. Dating is just like selling. The selling game doesn’t change. What you sell does.

You can run a hustle and be a great salesman and sell someone a piece of shit.

Be as honest

Honesty and Good Intentions, Whatever They Maybe.

Create. Urges.

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Wait. For an Offering. Be Busy.

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Make Her Laugh. Structured Response

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Don’t create Obligations.

If you send over a emoji kiss, she’s obligated to send a kiss back. You’re making her do something. Obligating her.

Silence. Make Her Think About You.

Step 1. Smile Bro!

I smile and give a bit of a confident grin as I’m about to run Baywatch style infront of all these tourists. As I get right infront of her, maybe 8 feet away, she notices me and smiles.
Gentlemen, we’re not playing games. Often you’ll read on women’s dating profiles, “No Games.” or “Tired of Games.” Nice ladies… often they are clueless. They think there is some mysterious game going on and her kitty is the prize. Often these women don’t date well, have been ghosted, may not understand men, are boring in bed or something weird is going on – or she just expects way too much.

How to Pick Up a Hot Girl on the Beach

Section: Dating Strategy and Advice
Topics: Pickups, Hot Girls, Beach
Audience: Guys
Level: The Casanova Club

Optional Audio: Girls Girls Girls

How to Pickup Hot Girls! At the Beach!

Welcome to Mr. Right’s Dating Advice! Today we are going to teach you how to pickup a Hot Girl on the beach.

My name is Jeff and I live on the beach in south Florida. Without question, one of the best places to pickup a girl is at the beach. For a number of reasons. Mostly, you know what she looks like without clothes on. Major bonus! You are also meeting a fun girl or woman that enjoys spending time at the beach and not sitting at home, alone or with her cats.

I’ve recently starting jogging the beach at sunset after 6 months off from a knee injury. I’ve also been dating a dinner and dick chick and it would be nice not to have to pay for it. She’s really hot but still, the principal.

Prepare for the Chase

After walking probably thousands of miles on the beach, women are not going to run up to you everyday. It happens quite a bit though, where they pursue you. It’s great! I love being chased by women. Just not mean, lazy or fat women.

This particular island is like an International drop off for hot cougars with surprisingly large breasts. It’s fairly dangerous if you walk around without a shirt. You get scratched and bitten! No worries, I love taming cougars. I even wear a safari shirt on dates with these women.

Back to the chase! There’s 100 single women per mile on this beach in a bikini. Good numbers. Not Daytona numbers of 10,000 per mile… but good.

Mentally, time for deep breaths and a smile! I’m going to have to run game and say the right shit at the right time. In turn, I get to choose who I date. What I want, who I want, when I want. Plus this is much easier than you think!

NBD. No Big Deal. It’s Our Duty.

No big deal. I’m getting better at picking up girls in person. I’m really good at dating online. I can date endlessly from Tinder and OKC. I can go on any kind of date and I do well in person. I’ve also accepted that it’s our duty as men to carry forward tradition and have a good time entertaining and making beautiful women happy. If we didn’t do it, it’s just not going to happen. Somebody has to do it and today it’s me. Just that simple. No big deal.

How to Pickup A Hot Girl on the Beach

I’ve also accepted that it’s our duty as men to carry forward tradition and have a good time entertaining and making beautiful women happy. If we didn’t do it, it’s just not going to happen. Somebody has to do it and today it’s me.

The Scope Out, Recon.

Okay back to the beach, it’s like a football field. A game is played. And this really is a great place to pickup girls on the beach. A lot of things help to make this easy; the beach is not too wide, the surf is light and the sand is not too soft along the water. There’s also plenty of single women for a solid mile. The beach is lined by condo towers and four and five start hotels. On this run I’ll pass by two former girlfriends buildings, a town beach, a city beach, a Hilton and five Marriott Vacation hotels.

Since I ran the beach yesterday, I know what time the tide will be and it’s low tide. That means I can run on the sand bars and it’s half as much work! Some guys jog, I run and walk. I start slow and then build to a full sprint and then slow down.

In addition to knowing the tide, I know there is a foxy blonde, late 40’s in perfect shape with nice double D’s around sunset at town beach. Seems like she need a pick me up or a rebound!

There’s also a new kitten around the pumphouse. I’ve seen her in the morning doing yoga. And she says, “Look at me!” when she stretches. You see her from a football field away.

The Notice Game. Smile Bro!

As I pull my beach cruiser bicycle up to the beach, I see the cute yoga kitten laying in the sand 50 feet away! Hurray! Today just got a lot better.

I kick off my flip flops and I hop down off the concrete pier down into the sand. My knee has been hurting so stop and kneel with my right knee in the sand. I pause for a moment and I hop up and begin to approach her.

I smile. And keep smiling! Usually I have a bit of a confident grin as I’m about to run Baywatch style in front of all these tourists. I start by walking down the beach. As I get right in front of her, maybe 8 feet away, she notices me and smiles.

The Wave. She’s Friendly!

I give a “Hey, You… You Rock!” extra smile. And she gives a cool little wave!

Sweet. That’s a Yes! She’s made up her mind. I smile really big and lean back towards her as I walk by as if I don’t want to keep walking. And then I start a light jog off down the beach.

Right Time and Right Place…

I spent about 25 minutes running the beach. I wanted to time it so she’s still there but just wrapping up as it is sunset. Too late and she’s gone. Too early and I look desperate.

Let’s Stall for a Moment.

When I got back to the pumphouse and the pier, I took a few minutes to swim and rinse off. I put my phone in my baseball cap set it next to my bicycle. I walked out into the water and swam for just a minute. I didn’t try to do a bunch of laps or impress this girl. I’m right in front of her in the water.

I walked out and smiled and she was playing the notice game staring at her phone. She pretended not to notice me swimming right in front of her.

The Osprey – A Missed Opportunity

The sunset behind the girl is spectacular. Big pink sky. Perfect moment. When I got back to the bike, I put my hat on and looked south and was startled by a large bird in the water right in front of me! I thought an eagle was injured and being attacked by a shark at first glace! But no, it was an osprey that came out of nowhere and splashed down just 10 feet from me. And it missed!

That’s rare here. The the fish are plentiful and the water is clear. A missed opportunity. It reminds me how just three months ago I was picked up by three beautiful women on this beach in one hour, but there was still a missed opportunity. I was just at the right place and the right time for two of them. They gave me their numbers but the other did not and I did not ask. And it was a missed opportunity. Not once in a lifetime. But once for us. I was not going to let that happen again.

You lose everything – doing nothing. A missed opportunity.

And at that moment, I knew I had nothing to lose. And I’m here for fun. This girl just might be fun!

Let’s Do It! The Approach

I didn’t want to be that osprey flying away empty handed, so I SMILED and began walking her way. I casually walked right up to her and I remind myself I’m just here to be friendly and fun. She glances up from her phone with a look of hesitation and gives a warm smile. I give a friendly little wave and I say “Helloooo.” And I drag it out a little bit like a foreigner from Europe.

I start with “You’re way cool. I’m Jeff. Are you new here?” (Note: The Only Answer is Yes. Or some version of Yes).

She says, “I’ve been a little while, I work up at the tattoo shop. My name is Candy.”

I smile again and point to the tattoos on her leg and say, “Your tattoos are awesome! I don’t have any… yet! And point to my stomach.

She smiles and says, “Oh, I do the piercings I don’t do the tattoos.”

I replied with, “Right on. Nice to meet you and welcome to the island!”

She smiles again with a very slow sexy reply says, “Thank you, I appreciate that.”

As the sun is almost completely down, I said, “We’ll see you around. And have a good night.”

She gives a warm, “Catch you later.” and the little wave again.

And that’s how to pickup a hot girl on the beach!

Now I could have asked for her number, but I live on this block and she lives maybe two blocks always. I know I’ll see her again fairly soon and it will be very easy to talk to her as we are now acquainted. And we know each other’s names.

You can always say, “You’re really cool. Would you like to meet for drinks? My treat.”

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You can always say, “You’re really cool. Would you like to grab a bite to eat? My treat.”

And then, “Do you mind if I get your phone number?”

And that’s how to get a girls number, just about anywhere.

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